It is a sad fact that few of us want to think about none of us live forever. If you have a person in your life that is elderly or very ill, approaching a loved one about their final wishes is challenging. Chances are, your loved one has already given some of this sensitive topic some thought already. In many ways, approaching them and bringing the subject up can also be of some relief.
The topic of death is never easy and pre-planning funeral arrangements isn’t necessarily on the loved ones to do list. Here are some things to consider:
Time and Place: Let your loved one know that perhaps the two of you need to find a couple of moments to talk about their final wishes. Giving your loved one the heads up that you’ll be discussing this topic gives them an opportunity to ruminate, preventing them from being caught off guard.
Written Documentation: While speaking to somebody about their final wishes is a sensitive subject, do not forget the importance of documents. We are not talking about a will or trust, which is a documentation regarding a deceased property. You will need a document for your loved one’s final wishes. This paper or online document should include details on the remains of the body, the funeral event, and venue. This avoids arguing between adult children and other relatives as the deceased wishes have been clearly defined and stated.
Many choices: Does your loved one want a traditional funeral in a stately church? Or a low-key memorial in a park or on a beach. If your loved ones start to feel overwhelmed, .gently suggest reviewing and meeting again. People want to do the right thing but religion, family beliefs, and existing finances may be too disconcerting for them to process. Let your loved one know they do not need to give specifics immediately but urge them to meet with you again.
Think of this plan for your final wishes as a gift you leave behind for your loved ones.
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