“Children will listen to you after they feel listened to.” ~ Jane Nelsen
Most people believe that grief is more or less the same for everyone but that could not be farther from the truth, in fact, everyone handles grief in their own way. Each individual and relationship is as unique as their fingerprint so it comes as no surprise that how we cope with loss is also different. Unfortunately, there are a lot of myths surrounding how people grieve and cope with death, but this is especially true when it comes to children. Some believe that children are too young to actually go through the motions of grief but experts are finding this is not the case. In fact, research shows that not only do children grieve, but they grieve much differently and express themselves differently than adults. Here are just some of the many ways you can help a child cope with grief.
Put emotions into words
Grief does not have a timeline so in the days, weeks, months, and even years that follow a death, it’s important to encourage kids to say what they are thinking and feeling and offer comfort, support, words of encouragement, and affection.
Set expectations
Nobody likes to be blind sighted and children are no exception. Try to be upfront with kids about what they can expect when it comes to memorial services, viewings, a celebration of life, cremation scatterings or any type of changes they may experience when it comes to a disruption in their schedule. If you need to be a part of the planning process for a service or need to spend time alone, let your child know who they will be staying with and how long you expect to be away so there are no surprises.
Allow your child to have a role in the process
Giving your child a special role, even if it’s small such as a reading during the service or gathering their favorite photo of the person who died will make your child feel like they are a part of the experience and not left out.
Help them remember
Encourage your child to talk about the person and share their favorite memories of them with you. They had a different experience and relationship with that person and talking about them can not only help combat sad feelings but it could prove to be healing for you both.
Allow them time
The process of grief does not have a timeline so it’s important to continue the conversations long after the loved one has died. Sharing memories and remembering the person stir good feelings and encourages discussions.
Seek further support
If you notice your child coping with constant worry, sadness, or they are having trouble focusing and sleeping, they could benefit from counseling and grief support groups. Seek groups that specifically specializes in helping children cope with death.
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